Comments on: Missed Connection

By: WonderMike

WonderMike — Thu, 28 Feb 2008 18:42:04 +0000

Hmmmmm. That’s a toughie. I’m gay and I knit. I really love it when I meet straight guys who knit, much the same as when I meet straight guys who cook, who stay at home with the kids, who hug/kiss me hello/goodbye, etc. I guess what I’m saying is that I like meeting straight men who are comfortable enough in their own skin to not worry about what the world thinks of them. Do they worry about being labeled gay? Perhaps. But, it’s nice that you took the time to go over and say hello, even if it might be construed as forward. If he’s worried that you were gay and trying to pick him, that’s his loss, not yours.

By: marti

marti — Thu, 21 Feb 2008 21:53:03 +0000

I love the set up of your podcast, I think that you are way too self-conscious about your ablities. Thanks also for the tips on the i-pods!

By: terri

terri — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 05:03:09 +0000

Oh, crap. Yesterday a lady on the train turned around and said “you’re knitting! I’m a knitter too!” and I totally did NOT engage in conversation because I was really pooped and didn’t feel like chatting. Now she probably thinks I’m so rude. Then again, she is a complete stranger….

Hee hee, I’m teasing you just a little bit. But the story is true! BART train in the East Bay, for real.

By: allison

allison — Fri, 15 Feb 2008 19:06:58 +0000

Maybe he’s afraid of being outed as a knitter. A fate worse than death…..

By: Katherine

Katherine — Mon, 11 Feb 2008 17:22:39 +0000

I’ve often said that seed stitch puts me to sleep. Did you check to see if he was awake (and breathing)? I can’t think of any other explanation for one knitter not talking to another except that he was comatose!

By: ErickaJo

ErickaJo — Sat, 09 Feb 2008 01:26:24 +0000

Oh Jeez. I love Missed Connections! But don’t be upset. Some people just don’t want to be part of the Cool Kid’s Club. It’s not you.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Wed, 06 Feb 2008 23:25:33 +0000

Hi, there!

I just received a new iPod for my birthday, and searched out knitting podcasts. I just finished listening to your latest issue, and wanted to let you know that I really enjoyed it! I especially loved the “interview” section. It was nice to learn about weaving, which I have never tried.

Thanks for the podcast!

By: IRV

IRV — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 04:38:50 +0000

I’ve always chatted w/ folks when they’ve inquired about what I’m knitting. Why are some people so damn rude? It beats me.

By: Ted

Ted — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 00:27:03 +0000

Maybe it has nothing to do with you. Maybe he just doesn’t like talking to people.

I’ve run into this. I’ve met gay men who don’t want to talk to a “family” member about their knitting. They did seem to be concentrating on their knitting, though, so maybe they just didn’t want to be interrupted. Maybe they were counting, or in the middle of a really difficult lace pattern and were afraid they might forget the pattern repeat.

I was at a workshop with a str8 guy and 23 women and he treated me **so** rudely, I finally stopped showing interest in the sweater he was making. He told me at least 4 times that he was married, and that he was making the sweater for his daughter. You know, because he’s **married**. The last time, he said it r-e-a-l-l-y s-l-o-w-l-y and loud, like how people will sometimes say things to others that they believe are daft or hard of hearing. Funny, though. Whenever women asked him about his project he had lots of time to show it to them, talk about how he had designed it, laugh with them. I got grunts. Who knows what his problem was.

I mean, maybe your subway rider is a str8 guy who figured you’re queer and were trying to pick him up.

By: Kat

Kat — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 21:52:09 +0000

He was obviously not in touch with his inner knitter.

Maybe he cannot purl and talk at the same time ????

The end result is the same - his loss!

By: kimchi

kimchi — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 19:49:48 +0000

yeah, i know what you mean…
i think some people just don’t know what to do when a friendly person comes up to them and is nice to them and just makes nice conversation!
this same thing has happened to me with similar results BUT also with opposite results. so i hope he ends up showing up at your knitting group!!!
elaine. :o)

By: Emily

Emily — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 12:31:58 +0000

You know, I’ve had that happen a few of the times that I stick my neck out and talk to a knitting stranger. To be fair, I guess some people just don’t want to talk about it or whatever, and that’s cool, but it’s just such a different reaction than what we usually get that it’s unsettling. Oh well, people are weird. Still, I think it’s cool that you let him know about the group, even he decided you all had cooties.